You might find this to be an interesting topic, but for me, it’s a little embarrassing. I have been dating a woman about my age for almost three years. We have had a lot of fun together and we seem to be very compatible. The sex, on the other hand, is very sporadic. One day, she will say that there isn’t enough of it. But then, another day, I will hint that I’m interested and she will say that’s all I think about.

These types of comments are very confusing to me, and I’m guessing they’re the types of comments that only women understand. I have asked my male friends and they said that’s normal speak. That’s fine and all, but her comments make me question my performance. It also means that I have to make sure that she is pleased before me every single time. Otherwise, it might not happen for a while. And this brings me to the embarrassing part.

A few weeks ago, we had intimate relations. Everything went well and we were both pleased with the experience. However, the next day, she said that she might have urinary tract infection. At first, I figured this was not too out of the ordinary and didn’t think much about it. But as the days went on, she then said it might not be a urinary tract infection, but a yeast infection instead. And possibly both. I still didn’t think much of it, other than to stay away until everything was back to normal. Well, two weeks passed and nothing was changing. And this was with medication.

So, I was beginning to freak out a little bit. It even crossed my mind if either of us had an STD that we weren’t aware of. Luckily, that was not the case. However, she kept asking me if there was something I wasn’t telling her from that night we had intercourse. I said no, but that was a lie.

Earlier that night, I drank a lot of water. Little did I think that would have any affect on what was going to happen later in the night. In the begging of our ‘time together’ something happened that has never happened to me before. I guess you could say I lost control in a liquid fashion. It was only a little bit, so I wasn’t sure if she felt it. This was extremely embarrassing. And it seems to have played a major role in what happened.

Right now, everything is back to normal and she has no idea this event ever occurred. I feel guilty about lying, but I think in this situation that might be the right answer. What do you think?

If you take the time to really inhale the scent of the faded cologne, you’ll realize there is an insatiable sexiness about the way it mixes with his body chemistry. What’s even sexier is that you’re the only one who can get close enough to him to smell it. Find out how sexy subtle can really be! Check out the following five tips for keeping the romance alive.

1. A gentle touch. Make it a point to touch each other lovingly throughout the day. Whether it’s a morning kiss, a brush of the shoulder as you pass each other in the kitchen or a hug from behind as you prepare dinner, touching each other is a physical reminder of your attraction to each other.

2. Sloppy kisses. Stealing a passionate kiss down in the basement when the kids aren’t looking can be just as sexy as it was when you were kids hiding from the parents. Intimate moments are fleeting in a busy house, so take advantage of any moment you can.

3. Sext him. Let him know that you’re already thinking about your planned night together. Send him a sexy text during the work day to get the fire burning. Chances are he’s already thinking about it anyway, and it’s a big turn-on for men to know women are thinking about it, too.

4. Playing peek-a-boo. Before you leave for work in the morning, lift your skirt a little to reveal the thigh-hi’s you’re sporting just to get him thinking about it for the day. If the kids have already left for school, steal a quickie in the kitchen as a preview for later in the night.

5. Enjoy each other. There is a reason the two of you got together in the first place. Whether it’s a stroll in the park, a drive around the lake, or finishing an entire pizza together while watching an all-time classic, enjoy each other’s company like you did when life was simpler.

Check your self-confidence
How much do you really appreciate and like yourself? You will only attract people who reflect how you feel about yourself. If you believe that you are not really anything special, you will draw people to you who will ultimately reinforce that belief. If you need help with your self-confidence, make a list of all of the great things about you and the reasons you would make a good partner for someone. Are you kind? Compassionate? Loyal? A great listener or a great cook? Do you give awesome massages? If you need to, read your list every day and soon you will start to see yourself as a real catch!

What message does your body language convey?
You may feel like you’re ready to date, but you will communicate your readiness with your body language. Others will ultimately judge your approachability by how you present yourself. If you, for instance, tend to keep your head down or refuse to meet others’ gaze, you will not come across as particularly confident. People might not see you as someone who believes they deserve love, and will treat you accordingly. If your arms are frequently crossed, you will not come across as friendly or open, instead you will be communicating that you desire to keep people at a distance. To improve your body language, try to pay attention to the way you are positioning yourself when you’re out. What signals do you think you’re sending? If you were observing someone who carried themselves the way you do, what assumptions would you make about them? Keep your head up. Meet people’s gazes. Don’t be afraid to show genuine interest in people. What’s the worst that could happen?

Keep a sense of proportion—and humour!
Often when dating, because it requires us to be vulnerable to a certain extent, people tend to make more out of situations and interactions and attach meanings to them that they don’t necessarily have. A first date, even a great first date, is usually just that. It doesn’t mean the person is “the one” or even that they’re going to see you again. Take it for what it was, an enjoyable time that you shared with another person. Laugh it off if you need to. See each interaction as just another step in your journey. If you are able to be in the moment and enjoy what is coming to you without putting too many expectations on it, dating will be a lot more fun. The more relaxed you are about the process, the easier it is for real love to find you.

Coping with rejection
Sooner or later everyone is going to experience rejection. It’s important not to take it too personally. You just may not have been what the person was looking for. That’s not a reflection of your worthiness as a potential partner for someone. Being rejected by someone has a positive aspect to it as well, because it helps free you up to spend time with people who are better suited to you.